I smile as I remember the sweet stories my parents have told me about their dating years. My dad was in the merchant marine academy and he would frequently go out to sea, so they rarely got to see each other. Thousands of miles apart, they sent handwritten letters to each other on a weekly basis.
Just a generation later, we have hundreds of ways to communicate. Call/text. Facebook. Facetime. The list could go on and on…
As technology increases, you would think communication would become easier. But it’s really not. If anything, I believe that effective communication in marriage is becoming MORE difficult.
Notice I said effective communication in marriage. I believe there’s a big difference between talking and communicating. And I’ve learned that effective communication in marriage is essential.
Have you ever reached for your phone to check for new text messages as soon as you got in the car with your husband? I have. Have you ever responded “mmhmm, yeah…” as your husband tried to tell you about his day? I have.
When I step back and really think about that, it hurts. If my husband is truly the most important person in the world to me (which he is), why would I not make more time to talk with him than to check Instagram? Am I that selfish that I can’t just for five minutes set aside my phone, look directly at him, and actually listen to what he’s saying? [Read more...]